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How To Make Him Obsessed With You? The Guide That Can Change Your Life!

How To Make Him Obsessed With You? The Guide That Can Change Your Life!

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So, you really want to make a man obsessed with you? Really? Okay, so you want to make a man obsessed with you.  So let me break it down to you – it is very easy to make him really, really, really want you.

See, men are not that complex. In fact, if you had asked me how to make a woman obsessed with you, it would definitely take me more than one blog to explore the topic. But where men are concerned, it is a cakewalk. 

Right, let’s get back to the topic at hand. Before I start, just a reminder: obsession is not really a healthy quality in anyone, irrespective

of their gender. Here, we are talking about it casually in a light-hearted way – you just want your partner or your crush to give you more attention, not stalk you to trauma.

Okay, without beating around the bush, let’s find out how to make him obsessed with you. 

So, How To Make Him Obsessed With You?

Like I just said, making a man obsessed with you is not hard. So, without further ado, scroll down and find out how to make him obsessed with you.

1. Just Be Unavailable At Times:

If you are wondering how to make him obsessed with you without talking, then just be unavailable at times. Of course, you have to be there for him when he needs you ( provided he is there for you – you know it goes both ways). But that does not mean you must be around always – there is no point hanging around him because of the age-old ‘out of sight, out of mind’ fear.

So, instead of saying yes every time he asks you out, try saying no at times and see how it changes things between the two of you. 

If you are still at a stage where you are just crushing over him, even in that case, your best bait would be to just not text him or initiate a conversation with him first. Let him come to you and say no to him – that is going to make him crazy about you, trust me on this one.

2. Be There For Him When He Needs You:

So you wanted to know how to make a guy obsessed with you. Just like I mentioned that your unavailability is vital, your availability is also important. It all boils down to timing – just like you need not be there while he is hanging out with his childhood friends, ensure that you are there when he hits rock bottom.

Be There For Him When He Needs You_

Remember, hitting rock bottom is usually a turning point – but then that is also the time when you know that you don’t want to be there again and thus enter the turning point. 

And if you are there for someone when they are at their lowest, then they can never forget you. So be there for your partner when you really need you.

Even if he is your crush – you can still be there for him. For example, you are crushing over your senior at work (sorry, POSH). When your senior is having the worst day at work, you can always help him out – or the least you can do is just hang around and listen. 

3. Don’t Be A Damsel In Distress:

Yes, you cannot be a damsel in distress. If you want him to obsess about you, then you cannot always be the victim who needs to be rescued. In fact, while most people believe the inherent nature of men is to ‘protect’ their partners, the aim here, ladies, is to make them obsess about you. You don’t have to awaken his hero instinct successfully to make him obsessed with you.

Don't Be A Damsel In Distress

Instead, you need to be so unavailable that he won’t even get the chance to ‘save you’ until, of course, one fine day, you will let him help you out of a difficult spot. If you are way too easy with him early on, then there is no way he is going to think about you all the time. 

You know he can drop you home, for instance, but don’t let him do that for a month at the very least. And then just ask him to drop you one random day and watch him drop everything to help you out.

Knowing how to make your boyfriend obsessed with you is not that complex – you just need to be in your own space and enjoy your life on your own terms. And ladies, It’s about time we change the narrative – tell your crush or your partner that you can save yourself and watch them love you a little more than before.

4. Keep An Air Of Mystery Hanging Around You:

If you want to know how to make him obsessed with you, then you need to understand one basic thing – you cannot give away too much, too soon. 

While we might sound a little conventional when we talk about not giving away too much too soon, what we are actually trying to say is that don’t give away information about your life to your crush or in a dating but no relationship face, or even in the early days of a relationship. 

Keep An Air Of Mystery

We will tell you why – it is very simple. You want to make him obsessed about you. For that, you need to become unattainable for at least a few months in a new relationship or connection. And in order to become unattainable, you need to keep some parts of your life private. 

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By private, we don’t mean you have to hide where you stay or what you do for a living – come on, how can you go out on a date with someone without knowing these things about them? If you are vacationing in Europe and it’s summer, we can still try to understand, but then it doesn’t hold true for any other place or any other time of the year.

But of course, you don’t need to tell him about your bad breakups, for the events that really changed you. Save those stories for later, and keep up the mystery in the initial days of your connections or relationships. 

5. Let Him Chase You:

This one is as old as it gets. Yes, we are 21st-century feminists, and we believe in the equality of all genders. Having said that, if you want to know how to make him obsessed with you, then you have to let him chase you. And letting him chase you is one game that can get exhausting really fast. 

Let Him Chase You

You know he is chasing you, and then he is not chasing you while you are waiting to step out on your first date, and then you are doing the unthinkable – you end up stopping the chase.

Once a chase starts, you cannot stop it – you have to see it through. You cannot just end it – that is called giving away power. And you cannot give away your power too early in a relationship. And once you give in, your crush or partner will lose interest. 

Knowing how to make a man obsessed with you is simple, really – just let him chase you, let him ask you out, let him contact you for a certain time period before you can turn around, and give him some love back. It ultimately all boils down to unavailability. If you are too available, then no matter how problematic this sounds, he is not going to be obsessed with you. 

How To Make Him Obsessed With You Over Texts: 30 Texts To Make Him Obsessed With You!

We live in a digital world – and sending a few messages here and there can really change your relationship with your crush or even your partner, for that matter. So, without wasting time, let’s find out how to make him obsessed with you over text – scroll down and check out our text templates! 

Make Him Obsessed
  1. I wish you’d stop being so hot. My coworkers keep asking me about you. It’s just so distracting.
  1. I’d go crazy if I get that kind of attention from women everywhere I go. I wonder how you deal with it.
  1. Did you smile when you saw my name pop up on your phone just now?
  1. I wish you wouldn’t text me while I’m at work. People have begun to think of me as a psychopath because I keep smiling at nothing all the time.
  1. Thank God we don’t work together. I’d never get anything done. I’d just constantly be talking to you.
  1. Even though we’ve been together all day, I can’t get enough of you.
  1. You already know how I feel about you. Don’t you think you should do something about it?
  1. I don’t think I’ll be needing Tinder anymore because I’ve already found the guy I want to be with.
  1. I just read that caffeine can boost a woman’s libido. Is that why you keep inviting me for coffee?
  1. Do you believe when they say it’s sexy when girls make the first move, or do I show you the evidence?
  1. Just thinking about all the things we could be doing if you were at my place right now.
  1. I woke up today and realized that nothing could replace the empty space you left in my bed.
  1. You know, it’s a good thing you’re so great because it makes this whole long-distance thing less hard. But you’re worth these nights alone in bed.
  1. I want you to get me something cute for my birthday. Nothing expensive. Simply put a bow on your head and come to me.
  1. You know what’s the best thing about the distance between us? How good it feels when I’m finally with you.
  1. Can’t do any work because I’m thinking of your naked body on top of my naked body — it’s very distracting.
  1. I was going to wait another day or two to text you, but I can’t wait that long to talk to you.
  1. I just wanted to let you know that you’re always on my mind. I’m counting down the seconds until I see you again.
  1. I can’t wait to be in your arms again. You’re the only one who makes me feel this way.
  1. You’re like a drug…I just can’t get enough. Plus, you have the most beautiful eyes I’ve ever seen.
  1. You’re the first thing I think about when I wake up in the morning. I love the way you make me feel so alive.
  1. You have no idea how much I think about you. I’m so attracted to you, it’s ridiculous.
  1. I feel like we have a connection that’s unexplainable. Every time I’m with you, I feel like I’m on top of the world.
  1. I can’t stop thinking about you…it’s kind of driving me crazy. You’re always on my mind.
  1. You’re the only one who can make me laugh like this. You make me feel like I’m walking on clouds.
  1. You’re the most important person in my life. I can’t wait to see where our journey takes us.
  1. You’re the only one who can make me feel this way. You’re the most amazing person I’ve ever met.
  1. You make me feel like I’m the only person in the world. You’re the one I want to spend the rest of my life with.
  1. You’re the most amazing person I’ve ever met. I love the way you make me feel like I can do anything.
  1. I love the way you make me feel when we’re together. I can’t imagine my life without you in it – You’re my happy ending.

And It’s A Wrap!

Now that you know how to make him obsessed with you, what’s next? Are you going to send out a few messages tonight, or are you going to apply the tips mentioned above? No matter what you do, just remember that obsession is not usually seen in a positive light. Of course, we understand that obsession here is more like an allegory to getting him ‘hooked’ to you. 

But anything more than that can turn out to be toxic – so practice these tips with caution! You don’t want your boyfriend or even crush to turn into a full-time stalker! 

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