If you know all of Taylor Swift’s songs by heart then you are a Swiftie.
If your Spotify playlist is mostly her songs, then you are a Swiftie.
If you have a Taylor Swift song to attach to every moment of your life, then You Are A Swiftie.
As a matter of fact, I too am a proud Swiftie, that is what Taylor swift fans are called, and will always remain that way. Her effortless lyricism, mesmerizing vocals, and her way of creating a story through her lyrics are what that sixteen-year-old country singer, into the Queen she is now.
We can all agree that Taylor Swift is the Queen when it comes to breakup songs and heartbreak songs. We have all gone through heartbreaks and breakups, when love is not a constant in your life, Taylor Swift’s breakup songs are.
Whether we are in denial, angry, depressed, or finally having closure, she was always there for us, like we are for her.
Not all of us are great at expressing our feelings, but when Taylor sings the exact things we are feeling, then it feels like I am not alone in this, she is there for me.
“Won’t Lose you again”: Denial
It’s hard going through heartbreak, not knowing, how it happened, what to say now or what you are going to do now. That is when break-up songs, help you to understand your feelin’ and let you grieve the relationship, you once had.
But after a break, the first thing that comes to your mind is “Are we really broken up?” This stage is called denial. When in the song “Haunted,” Taylor says the lines,
“Come on, come on, don’t leave me like this
I thought I had you figured out
Something’s gone terribly wrong
You’re all I wanted
Come on, come on, don’t leave me like this
I thought I had you figured out
Can’t breathe whenever you’re gone
Can’t turn back now, I’m haunted”
I really thought, can can’t live without him, after two years of a relationship, more than my Lover, he became a part of my life, and I can’t let that part go. But I was just kidding back then, how could keep a hold on someone, who was already gone?
And when I realized we were actually broken up, that is when I realized he was nothing other than trouble.
“I knew you were trouble when you walked in”: Anger
When Taylor was singing in the desert all alone, “I knew you were trouble.” That is when I thought was I thinking of life with someone who was not right for me the whole time?
“Cause I knew you were trouble when you walked in
So shame on me now
Flew me to places I’d never been
‘Til you put me down, oh
I knew you were trouble when you walked in
So, shame on me now
Flew me to places I’d never been
Now I’m lyin’ on the cold hard ground.”
It made me remember all the things he did to me that made me so mad, but at the time I completely overlooked them. Him lying to always about what he was doing, and always hung out with his friends, and ignored me, even though I am sitting right beside him.
At times like these, all I could think about was Taylor’s “Look what you made me do,” although I’m not the “seeking revenge” kinda person, it’s fun to think of it sometimes.
The tears that I have shed for him will go unnoticed and he would even behave as if he did nothing wrong and it’s all in my head, yeah, gaslighting at its finest.
“So this is me swallowin’ my pride”: Bargaining
But even though I was angry and mad at everything he did, I can’t get over the fact that I did love him and I can’t change that. That is when bargaining I started bargaining with my own feelings. Sing the lyrics to ‘All you had to do was stay,’ seemed like the best song ever.
“Will everything be normal again if I just said sorry?”, “Should I give him another chance?”, “I’m sure he will change this time.” Questions like these made me remember the time we Swifties were listening to Taylor sing ‘Back to December.’
“So this is me swallowin’ my pride
Standin’ in front of you sayin’ I’m sorry for that night
And I go back to December all the time
It turns out freedom ain’t nothin’ but missin’ you
Wishin’ I’d realized what I had when you were mine
I’d go back to December, turn around, and make it alright
I go back to December all the time.”
But can you really bargain with your feelings, because deep down you know what you should do and you can’t ignore that feeling, you can’t run from yourself? This is when you are at your lowest, and depression strikes.
“Time won’t fly, it’s like I’m paralyzed by it”: Depression
There comes a time when you don’t wanna get up from bed. You won’t feel like calling your friends or eating, and a tear-soaked pillow is your only companion. That is when Taylor sings, in her song “All too well.”
“Time won’t fly, it’s like I’m paralyzed by it
I’d like to be my old self again
But I’m still trying to find it
After plaid shirt days and nights when you made me your own
Now you mail back my things and I walk home alone.”
I cried with her, laid on my bed feeling as if I were paralyzed, as I remembered him and the feelings came rushing back.
But as Taylor sang, Teardrops on my guitar, I finally realized I can’t cry anymore over someone, who already moved on, it was time for me to ‘Shake it off.’
“We’re all so tired of everything”: Acceptance
When realized that breaking up with someone like that was the best thing that happened to me, I finally understood what I need in life, and it was definitely not him.
Yes, I am a romantic but not in the traditional sense, I’m the “New Romantics,” just as Taylor says, “Heartbreak is the national anthem, we sing it proudly.”
“Baby, we’re the new romantics
Come on, come along with me
Heartbreak is the national anthem
We sing it proudly
We are too busy dancing
To get knocked off our feet
Baby, we’re the new romantics
The best people in life are free.”
This is called accepting myself for who I am, and not what others expect me to be. And at this stage, you are finally going to realize that. Me and him, “We are never ever getting back together.”
Read more: Why You Should Never Get Back With Your Ex?
“Shake It Off”: Wrapping Up That Chapter
Let’s just make one thing clear, Breakups are hard, heartbreaks cannot be dealt with in a few days, and it takes time to heal your broken heart. Understanding your feelings is very important when you are going through a breakup.
But if you are a Swiftie, you need to know that you are not alone. Taylor has a song for every tiny emotion you are feeling, her music and storytelling help you in every step of the way. Give yourself time and then you will slowly learn to understand yourself.
That is when you will ‘Shake it off,’ all the bad feelings, and be ready for new adventures in life, hopefully, you will find the person you are looking for.
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