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How To Be A Better Partner: List of All Major Turn Offs In A Relationship

How To Be A Better Partner: List of All Major Turn Offs In A Relationship

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Do you really want to know what the biggest turn offs, so you do not commit the same mistakes? Well, you are in luck, my friend. You need to just stick around till the end of this article in order to know five of the biggest behaviors that can turn anybody off. 

What Are Turn Offs?

Before looking at the list of turn offs, we really need to define the connotation of the very word ‘turn off’. Turn off can apply to the sexual aspect as well as the relationship aspect of your relationship. Today, we will primarily look at the turn offs in a relationship so that you can see if your behavior is turning off your partner. Or making them fall out of love. In any case, I hope that this article will help you to understand the nuances with more clarity and context.

List Of Turn Offs You Need To Know

Before we proceed with the list, I would like to repeat that turn-off behavior is not irredeemable. I mean to say if you think that your behavior is turning off your partner, then you can still take a moment to assess your behavior and make amendments in order to save your relationship. And since you are here, I think you want to make those changes.

Ex Comes Up More Than Often

Ex Comes Up More Than Often

You are on your first date, and the person seems okay. However, as you slowly keep observing, you realize that the ex comes up more than often in the conversation. Subsequently, you realize that the breakup happened just a while back. Moreover, they have gone into extensive detail as to why the relationship ended without you even asking. Well, this is a huge turn off if you ask me. The primary reason behind a date is to know the person you want to have any sort of engagement with. So, if the other person keeps talking about his or her ex in a negative manner and incessantly, this is not a great sign. It shows that the person lacks emotional maturity and does not know how to mediate between situations. 

Rude To The Service Staff

Rude To The Service Staff

Now, every person does not grow up in a similar manner. Some parents stress primarily on the educational part of the child’s growth, while others believe that social skills are important as well. As a result, be open to the idea that not everyone is good with people. However, if you see the person who you are out on a date with is downright rude to the service staff, then things do not bode well. It shows that the person is essentially quite entitled and suffers from a superiority complex. Several females I talked to have unanimously agreed that this is one of the biggest turn offs for women. It also shows that the person is essentially self-centered and thinks that the world revolves around him, and trust me, you do not want to be romantically involved with such a person.

No Jobs & Ambitions

No Jobs & Ambitions

We all run into career problems at some point in our lives. Be it because of our own fault or some other unprecedented factors. But if you are with a person who is unemployed at the moment and has no ambition to change that. Then this is something very concerning. Personally, I believe that a person without their own goals or ambitions is somebody who is a liability. However, before you move to the next point, you do need to identify what is the cause of such behavior. Now, sometimes the person in question turns out to be just lazy. But other times, this can be a symptom of depression. Depression is a mental illness that is characterized by feelings of numbness and absence of motivation. So before you run the gun, just take a moment to identify the problem at hand. 

Never Makes Plans For Fun

Never Makes Plans For Fun

Okay, before introverts impale me, I just want to say that being introverted does not mean that you are averse to the very idea of fun. Being introverted means that the person in question takes time to gel with people or is very selective of the people they hang out with. But if your partner is absolutely averse to the idea of going out for a dinner date or does not make any plans without your nudging, then this is a major turn off. I personally have been the kind that I am Lambasting over here. And after a lot of fights and thoughtful consideration, I have realized the mistake of my ways. While nobody is asking you to eat out every day. But making plans in regular intervals can actually enhance the overall quality of your love life. 

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Abysmal Personal Hygiene

Abysmal Personal Hygiene

This is one of the biggest turn offs for women as well as men when their partner stops caring about their personal hygiene. But then again, I am not going to lie, but guys are usually accused more of this crime than girls. Hygiene over here must not be confused with a poor fashion sense. Hygiene is something more fundamental and basic, like smelling good. Having good hair health. Shaped beard, clean clothes, etc. If you do not maintain your hygiene optimally, then it can be a major turn off. So, take a second longer and make sure your personal hygiene is properly maintained. 

End Note

In summation, these five were some of the biggest turn offs men and women have claimed that they have faced in their relationships. But since the list just talks about five major turn offs, it does not mean that there are only five kinds. Your partner can have several turn offs, so you need to take a moment and have a conversation with the respective person you are with. This will alleviate your confusion and help you improve the quality of your relationship. 

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