All You Had To Do Was Stay: Getting Over That Painful Breakup💔

“Don’t stress the could haves. If it should have, it would have.”

No matter how much we need it, there are no hard and fast rules for getting over a painful breakup. It’s never easy to deal with a breakup, no matter how strong you are, there comes a time when you feel weak, defeated, and out of all lonely.

After a time when the relationship eventually ends, a part of you goes with it, making you feel empty, lonely, depressed, and in a loss of self-identity. The mourning of a relationship is not just about letting go of that one person, it’s also about letting o of the hopes and dreams of the future attached to that person. 

“You have to let it all go. The way he kissed you, the way he smelled, the way he touched your waist and pulled you in. You have to let it go and you have to let him go. Because that’s who he was, not who he is.”

All You Had To Do Was Stay: Getting Over A Painful Breakup

When I feel down and am going through a breakup, the one person I listen to is Taylor Swift, the Queen of Breakup song. And among all, the song Taylor Swift All You Had To Do Was Stay, is what makes me get up on my feet again. 

The song is more about give lifting me up when I am at my lowest, that is what the song All you had to do was stay is my, breakup song. If you don’t know the song then here it is, for you. 

Ways To Get Over Your Breakup

“It’s not the goodbye that hurts. But the flashbacks that follow.”

No breakup is easy but there are certain ways you can definitely make the process easier for you and your well-being. 

So the list down below is a few ways that I have personally used before to get over all my breakups, and there were quite a lot of breaking ups and being dumped, trust me. 

1. Consider Your Breakup As A Physical Injury

“Some things break your heart but fix your vision.”

A great way for you to get over a recent heartbreak or break up is if you treat that break up as a type of physical injury as if you are in need of a medical emergency. 

Dr. Andrea Liner, Psy.D., says, “You may not be operating at 100%, and that’s okay. Extend yourself the same kindness for going through an emotional injury.”

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2. You Have The Right To Feel Your Feelings

For everyone going through a breakup all I have to say is, feel the grieve and mourn over the relationship as much as you can. Take your time to recover, as there is no hurry. 

And one thing is for sure, never let anyone belittle you for your feelings, you have the right to feel whatever you are going through. 

3. Have All The Support You Can 

It is not always possible to go through a breakup all alone, you need your support system, they can be your friends or family, but most times they are your friends. 

These are the times when you need their help to get over a breakup and even distract yourself from the pain. 

4. Apologies To Your Support System If You Want To

It often happens when you are consumed in a relationship, you often tend to forget about your friends, then your partner is all you need in life, but that is very wrong. 

Relationships come and go, but true friendships are forever, so ignoring your friends just because you are in a relationship is wrong. When you need them the most, you have to accept your mistakes and apologies before. 

5. Stay Away From Relationships

“Sometimes you need to give up on people, not because you don’t care, but because they don’t.”

It is important to note that until and unless you are completely over your ex and ready to see what is out there, don’t get into a relationship with anyone else. This will only be bad for your mental and emotional health. 

6. Keep Away All The Things That Remind You Of Your Ex

It is very important that you don’t cling to the things that belong to your ex. That way you are not gonna get over them. Rather you will get more and more sucked in all those memories that the both of you once shared. 

You can either return all those items that they gave you or if you are angry, you can even burn all things and with that burn your feelings away as well. 

7. Consider Dating Again

“If you spend too long holding on to the one who treats you like an option, you’ll miss finding the one who treats you like a priority.”

If you feel like you are ready and want to jump into the dating pool again, then maybe it’s time for you to start dating again. 

I don’t technically believe in ‘The One,’ or “Soulmates,” but you might find someone who prioritizes you and fights for you, and more importantly understands you. 

8. Don’t Stay Connected With Your Ex In Any Way

“You will not heal by going back to what broke you.”

Once you have started to let your ex go from your life, it’s time to disconnect from your phone and social media accounts as well. 

Keeping tabs on them is not going to help in any way possible. Every time you see a picture of them you will be back to square one and start all over again. 

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9. Focus On Creating New Memories

Now that you are working on moving on, it’s time to start creating new memories that will make all the old memories fade away. Go out with your friends, and spend more time with your family members. 

You can even replace the memories that you have with your friends, and replace them with your friends. Like if the two of you had a favorite cafe or restaurant that has special memories, then go there with your friends and create new memories. 

10. Closure Is A Myth, Just Move On

If you are waiting around to get closure, then babe! Let me tell you, Closure is nothing but a myth. You can only move on from the person and the memories you once shared, you can’t have closure. 

If you are waiting around for an apology or some kind of an explanation then you are just wasting your time. It is even possible that you don’t like the explanation that they give, what then? So focus on moving on and not look for closure.

Wrapping Up!

There are times when I wanted to say out loud to him,” All you had to do was stay.” But that is when I remind myself how broken I felt when he left in the first place, and I don’t wanna feel like that again, I don’t deserve that. 

When you learn to love yourself then only can others can love you the way you deserve. 

“If life can remove someone you never dreamed of losing, it can replace them with them with someone you never dreamt of having.”

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