I can’t sit still.
I am shocked.
I am so confused.
I think I’m in love with my best friend, and I am so scared.
Haven’t we all been here? I know I was always at risk of being in this position. But that didn’t stop me from falling madly, deeply, and intensely in love! For the most part, I didn’t realize what was happening until I was in too deep.
So, I fell for my best friend, and here’s what happened!
I’m In Love With My Best Friend: Four Golden Signs That Something’s Cooking Between You And Your Bestie!
I did not randomly wake up one morning and realize, ‘I’m In Love With My Best Friend.’ There were so many incidents, so many moments, and so many signs, all of which indicated that I was falling deeply for my best friend.
After giving this whole ‘falling in love with best friend’ trope much thought, I came across four definitive signs that something’s cooking between you and your bestie!
1. It’s Complicated: Jealousy For Potential Partners
I fell in love with my best friend literally after my best friend brought a date to this party we were both going to. Yes, I have brought dates plenty of times, and my best friend has always attended those parties. When I asked my friend about his date, he smoothly replied, ‘this is exactly how it feels when you bring people.’
I knew then, and there we were both jealous – he was trying to hit back, and maybe he was right in a way! After all, one of the first signs of love is jealousy, and our relationship started out no differently.
2. Your Bestie Is Your Robin: You Go To Your Bestie For Everything
I spent one of those perfect days with my best friend, and at night, he texted me, ‘you are my Robin.’ I texted him right back, ‘you are my Robin too…’ and there that was it! I couldn’t help but think I like my best friend. Of course, I forgot about those thoughts when the sun came up, and I quietly moved on without thinking back to that next.
But once I was sure I’m in love with my best friend, all I could think about was that text and how inevitably it’s always him standing by me and me standing by him. I always run to him when anything goes wrong in my life, and he always runs to me when things go wrong.
3. It’s Not You, It’s Me: Your Best Friend Is Better Than All Your Dates
It took me a long, long time to admit, ‘I love my best friend.’ My head was not entertained such thoughts for the longest time, and instead, I kept going out on dates with other men. Yes, those relationships naturally failed to last – with the end of each relationship, I kept saying to those men, ‘it’s not you, it’s me.’
Of course, it was me – I kept comparing every date with my best friend, wishing how much more fun it would be if I spent quality time with my bestie instead. Even when this guy took me on a really romantic coffee date, I kept picturing my bestie in place of my date. Love was in the air, and it was all meant for my best friend.
4. This Too Shall Pass: It Won’t…Unless You Do Something About It
Once you know you are in love with your best friend, it is likely you will feel scared. And feeling a little scared is normal – all of us have been in those shoes. But the art of falling in love is all about how you are feeling inside. Sorry to break your bubble, but ‘this’ won’t pass, not until you do something about it.
Of course, you don’t have to let your best friend know immediately, but if you think you MUST confess, then who am I to stop you? Go tell them how you feel and let us know about their reactions!
I’m In Love With My Best Friend – Ok, How Should I Approach Now?
Okay, so I’m in love with my best friend! How should you approach this complicated situation? No, you are not going to forget all about it and move on – that’s not healthy! My best solution would be to tell them whenever you feel like it. This person is your best friend. Why the fear? And no, you won’t lose them.
So, my best friend told me he loved me around three years ago. I didn’t love him romantically back then, and I was absolutely transparent with them. But did that make things awkward between us? For sure – the first few weeks were horrible, so much so that I missed him all the time.
But after a few weeks, we went on a drive together one day, and when we came back home, it felt so much better, as if a huge weight was lifted from our chests. Naturally, when I realized I was in love with him, I was scared because of two reasons.
- Yes, he was my BEST FRIEND!
- I already said ‘no’ three years ago – what if he says the same?
And then I told myself it was fine if he didn’t love me back because I genuinely believed from the bottom of my heart that we would still be friends, no matter what. But when I did manage to come clean about my feelings, it was a day I will never forget. We are still together, and it’s been four magical years of dating my best friend.
So, if you love your best friend, just tell them – all the best!
And It’s A Wrap: Love Me Like You Do!
I am in love with my best friend, and it’s been four peaceful years. Falling for my best friend was so easy, like falling on the bed – too poetic for your tastes? But isn’t that what love makes us feel – like poets? So, tell us what your thoughts are on falling hard for your best friend. And while sharing your thoughts, feel free to tell us about any such experience you might have had in the past!
Barsha Bhattacharya is a senior content writing executive. As a marketing enthusiast and professional for the past 4 years, writing is new to Barsha. And she is loving every bit of it. Her niches are marketing, lifestyle, wellness, travel and entertainment. Apart from writing, Barsha loves to travel, binge-watch, research conspiracy theories, Instagram and overthink.