Falling in love is a magical feeling. There is nothing better than being in love – love is free, love is safe, and love is definitely magic. In fact, sometimes, all you need is someone to love – and, more importantly, someone to love you.
But is this someone always going to be the same? I don’t think so. If you had asked me a decade ago, or even half a decade ago, I would have said, ‘Yes.’ But I no longer think so. But that’s not true – because everything in your life is disposable.
You can get over anyone and anything – friendships, jobs, failure, and definitely love.
I have fallen in love multiple times, and I have fallen out of love multiple times. Because, my friends, love too is disposable, like most things in life.
For instance, you know you have been in love with someone for the longest time, and one fine day, you realize that you don’t feel the same. People fall out of love all the time – but what are the signs you’re not really in love anymore?
That is precisely why we are here – stay tuned because this is about to get interesting.
Are You Not In Love Anymore? Signs You’re Not Really In Love!
If you think you are not in love anymore and you have arrived here, then chances are you are not in love anymore. Why would you look up stuff like this anyway – isn’t that the biggest sign?
I mean, the only reason I did some research on the signs you’re not really in love is because I knew I was writing a blog on it!
But what about you? Why are you here anyway?
Now that I have attacked you a little let’s talk about all the signs which point out you are not in love anymore!
1. The Butterflies Are Extinct:
There are so many people out there who will tell you about the butterflies at the beginning of the relationship. After they have spent some time with the person who gave them butterflies, you ask them about the butterflies.
I did ask such people about the butterflies, and most of them told me they didn’t get butterflies anymore. In fact, I found it peculiar. I have dated the same man for the past five years, and even today, when I go out on a date, I can feel the butterflies.
We are definitely in love because the butterflies never left us. But for most people I know or talked to about the same topic, I got a very different answer.
In fact, I heard that people consider it normal – it’s like the honeymoon phase of a relationship. And when the honeymoon phase disappears, so do the butterflies.
2. Something Is Missing:
Now, this is a major one! Once couples fall into their own patterns and habits, they follow a normal schedule in their relationship.
Trust me, long-term relationships cannot function without any schedule. I mean, once you settle down in the relationship, it is only normal to find out what works for you and what doesn’t. But does that mean you will fall out of love? Does the monotony in the relationship kill the butterflies?
Again, most people agreed with this question. But then there was a small percentage that did not agree – the same percentage who can still feel the butterflies after all these years.
I am in a long-term relationship, but the monotony, the familiarity, and the intimacy are all vital aspects of the relationship. For instance, both of us are super busy on weekdays, and our date nights always fall on weekends – it’s our time.
But that doesn’t mean we don’t look forward to the weekends accompanied by those damn butterflies!
3. Zero Drama:
Listen, the couple who keeps saying, ‘we don’t fight anymore’ is in deep sh*t! I am not saying fighting all the time and hurting each other is good for a relationship. Nope, that’s absolutely unhealthy and toxic.
But not having any disagreement or fight is weird. How can two people stay with each other and agree to everything? It’s not possible. So, if you have stopped fighting with your partner because you just don’t care anymore, then you know what it means.
And it doesn’t have to be just you – instead, both parties can feel it. You just don’t care enough to waste your energy on a fight. So, you just make your peace with it and move on.
Now, that is not love – that is you adjusting yourself to the situation!
4. New Day, New Man:
This is so true, I swear! For men may come, and men may go, I go on forever! Now, now, this is not the kind of thought that will pop up inside your head when you are madly in love.
But if you have been checking out men a little too much these days or if you are crushing over someone, then chances are you are not into your partner. Of course, if you are polyamorous, then things will be different for you. However, in the case of monogamous relationships, it is not normal to fall for another person.
I mean, it’s been five years, and I still get jealous when any other woman pays him attention. And when I get close to any guy, he doesn’t like it either. Now, babe, if you have been wanting to get closer to someone, it probably means you are not ‘in love’ or at least falling out of love.
Of course, attraction is common – but how you act on it, or even how you truly want to act on it is everything.
And It’s A Wrap!
And it’s a wrap on the major signs you’re not really in love!
Falling out of love is just as normal as falling in love – so don’t think of it as an impossibility. After all, love can be scary – what if he doesn’t love me one day? That’s perhaps my biggest fear, and I know the day I stop feeling scared, it’s all over between us.
So, if you are falling out of love gradually, then it’s best to sit down and talk about it. Trust me, it’s the two of you in a relationship – not other people who are just going to pass opinions on the matter.
Barsha Bhattacharya is a senior content writing executive. As a marketing enthusiast and professional for the past 4 years, writing is new to Barsha. And she is loving every bit of it. Her niches are marketing, lifestyle, wellness, travel and entertainment. Apart from writing, Barsha loves to travel, binge-watch, research conspiracy theories, Instagram and overthink.