This one’s for all my friends who struggled with getting back to their ex-partners - and even the ones who got back together! You guys are so strong but come on, let’s cancel those ex-partners this year #sorrynotsorry
Breakups are hard – yes, I get it but sometimes, actually, most times, listening to Tay Tay is a little better than picking up the phone when your partner…oops… ex-partner calls you up. When Taylor said, ‘we are never ever getting back together,’ my 16-year-old heart felt so powerful, not that I had any clue about what power REALLY meant.
But you know that inner strength you experience when the parlor aunty gets rid of the waxing strips?
Or, when you are really, really, really drunk and feel like puking, but you ate a whole lot of munchies, and now you just can’t puke?
So ignore that gut-wrenching pain and the love of god, and don’t go back to that toxic red flag – I mean, dating a new red flag is so much better than going back to that ex who never really cared. Also, you can consider reading on because I am about to talk about never ever getting back to your ex, and that too with logic, keeping all my overwhelming feelings aside.
We Are Never Ever Getting Back Together Lyrics: Time For An Encore?
While Taylor Swift inspired outfits have been all the rage since she dropped her debut album, let’s check out the lyrics of the original We Are Never Getting Back Together song! I just find the lyrics a little empowering, especially when you are going through a breakup, and you have to resist your hands from doing the unthinkable – yes, calling your ex!
So, if you can relate, then play this song right now while you are reading what I have to say – because going back to that undeserving piece of sh*t is useless.
Verse: I
“I remember when we broke up the first time
Saying, “This is it, I’ve had enough,” ’cause like
We hadn’t seen each other in a month
When you said you needed space (What?)
Then you come around again and say
“Baby, I miss you, and I swear I’m gonna change, trust me.”
Remember how that lasted for a day?
I say, “I hate you,” we break up, and you call me, “I love you.”
Ooh-ooh-ooh-ooh-ooh
We called it off again last night, but
Ooh-ooh-ooh-ooh-ooh
This time, I’m telling you, I’m telling you.
We are never, ever, ever getting back together
We are never, ever, ever getting back together
You go talk to your friends, talk to my friends, talk to me
But we are never, ever, ever, ever getting back together
Like, ever.”
Verse: II
“I’m really gonna miss you picking fights
And me falling for it, screaming that I’m right
And you would hide away and find your peace of mind
With some indie record, that’s much cooler than mine.
Ooh-ooh-ooh-ooh-ooh
You called me up again tonight, but
Ooh-ooh-ooh-ooh-ooh
This time, I’m telling you, I’m telling you.
We (We) are never, ever, ever getting back together
We are never, ever, ever getting back together
You go talk to your friends, talk to my friends, talk to me (Talk to me)
But we are never, ever, ever, ever getting back together.”
Verse: III
“I used to think that we were forever, ever
And I used to say, “Never say never.”
Ugh, so he calls me up, and he’s like, “I still love you.”
And I’m like, “I just, I mean, this is exhausting, you know?
Like, we are never getting back together, like, ever”
(No) We are never, ever, ever getting back together
We are never, ever, ever (Ooh) getting back together
You go talk to your friends, talk to my friends, talk to me
But we are never, ever, ever, ever getting back together.
We (Ooh-ooh-ooh-ooh-ooh, ooh-ooh-ooh, no)
Getting back together
We (Ooh-ooh-ooh-ooh-ooh, oh, oh)
Getting back together (Yeah)
You go talk to your friends, talk to my friends, talk to me (Talk to me)
But we are never, ever, ever, ever getting back together.”
We Are Never Ever Getting Back Together: Why You Should Never Get Back With Your Ex?
Welcome to my blog: We Are Never Ever Getting Back Together! Let’s drop the mask and start talking about one and only one thing – why you should never get back with your ex! Yes, not just whether you should you ever get back with an ex who cheated.
Nah, I am done talking about specific reasons for going back to a partner or even particular reasons for not going to a partner. It’s a new year, and I am all about taking a HUGE leap of faith and just going with the flow – a fresh start to a fresh year!
So, without wasting any time, here’s why you should never get back with your ex!
💔 Choose Me Or Lose Me:
This one’s simple, really – you choose me, or you lose me…after all, I am not a second option. Trust me, none of us really need a Taylor Swift breakup song to figure out that priorities are essential. If you aren’t a priority right now, then you will never really be a priority.
I remember dating this guy when I was 18 – we kept getting back together after every apparent breakup. And every time, I would hope that he would start choosing us, but he never did. So when he ghosted me for the nth time, I just moved on.
He did come back after two weeks and made so much effort to fix our relationship, but I was just done. Loving myself is so much more important than loving another man.
💔 Don’t Settle. Start Living:
There are so many reasons why you should never get back with your ex, but there’s perhaps nothing worse then settling down because you doubt yourself. Yes, the breakup makes you feel like it is the end of the world but but, but you must understand that honey, this too shall pass.
And someday soon, you will wake up lighter than you have felt in months or even years. Going back to a partner who has already disappointed you in the past can only promise you one thing: more disappointment.
The problem is we spend way too much time crying about the good times, and in the process, we often forget about the bad times. For a minute, think about those bad days, too – did you really deserve that? Or you can always play ‘We Are Never Ever Getting Back Together’ and just let Swift guide you!
💔 Thank You. Next?
Growing up, listening to Swift, identifying as a die-hard Swiftie, and asking Google, whom we are never getting back together about, wasn’t really a big deal. Yes, yes, it was about Jake Gyllenhaal.
In fact, the winner of 11 Grammys even spoke about her breakup with the Spider-Man: No Way Home actor in an interview with the very famous USA Today way back in 2017.
Taylor said, “He made me feel like I wasn't as good or as relevant as these hipster bands he listened to. So I made a song that I knew would absolutely drive him crazy.”
Trust me, you don’t actually need to look for signs you should not get back with your ex – instead, just grieve over the memories you have made with your ex-partner, and give yourself the time you need before you can move on. I always say, do what it takes – but that’s not really healthy advice, so I would just ask you to give yourself some time instead!
People Never Really Change:
Now, this one’s very true. People never really change, and this is true for all of us. Sure, they can work on themselves and become conscious of their red flags, eventually trying not to repeat their mistakes. But then, that doesn’t mean they actually changed.
I was 16 when I first fell for someone. And to begin with, things were shady. His phone would be off during the day, and he would always switch it on at night, talking to my best friend for hours. Initially, I thought it was innocent, but then six months later, I found they kissed behind my back. Cut to 5 years later, he did the same thing to my former friend.
I believe that people never change and that too from the bottom of my heart, which is precisely why I am never letting my current boyfriend go – he is a total green flag, and I love it!
6 Questions to Ask Yourself Before Reuniting With Your Ex:
First things first! So you guys broke up, and there must have been a big reason behind your break up – don’t forget that. It is easy to fall back into an old relationship after you go through some unsuccessful and short-lived romantic entanglements.
Sometimes, failed hookups or dates can simply leave us going through our dating history and idealizing familiar and old partners. Feeling demotivated and discouraged, or worse, simply desperate, leaves us in a really bad place when it is all about your decision-making.
That being said, sometimes a former partner did not work out for any reason back when things didn’t work out because of external factors could thrive now. Celebrities break up and patch up all the freaking time – look at Ben Affleck and Jennifer Lopez!
To determine which scenario fits you best, you have to ask yourself some questions! So, without wasting time, here we go!
- Why did you guys break up in the first place?
- Are you romanticizing your ex-partner or the relationship you shared with them?
- What changed that makes you feel things are going to be different this time?
- Since the breakup, what has your ex-partner done to make things better this time?
- In case trust was broken on both ends, can you actually rebuild it?
- Are both of you willing to do the ‘work’ it takes to fix things that didn’t really work before? And how will that work out?
Why You Should Never Get Back With Your Ex: The Reddit Threads You Were Waiting For!
I am not going to dwell on a random bonus section that will discuss the signs you’ll get back together or something even worse – featuring a story where someone actually got back together with their ex. Don’t you think it kinda defeats the whole purpose of writing an article about not getting back to your ex?
So before I pull the curtains on this piece, I planned on going through Reddit – because Reddit always has so much to say! From Savage ex quotes to conspiracy theories, I am A Reddit fan.
Reddit Thread #1:
This is what one Reddit user @u/migent had to say,
“Either they’re an impulsive person who makes rash life decisions, or they took their time to make a decision that they knew would hurt you.
Either way, they’ve shown that they’re willing to put themselves first and above you. They don’t miss or love you. They just miss or love the feeling you gave them. That’s why it takes regret or them feeling miserable before they reach out. If they found someone who makes them just as happy, if not happier, they would not have reached out.
They honestly don’t care about you. They will always put themselves first. You’re just a means to an end.”
Reddit Thread #2:
Another Reddit user @u/Time-Choice-9909 said,
“It’s funny how when they say “I need to work on myself,” you’re the one who ends up working on yourself and not them.” And the discussion that followed this thread was truly hilarious!
Here are some comments from this highly entertaining thread,
- “So true. My ex’s main reasoning was they wanted to find themselves and experience things alone for once. They got into a new relationship almost immediately after dumping me, lol.”
- “This is very real. Amazing to me how they’d rather start all over with someone new than just be better people.”
- “I swear if in my next relationship my partner gives me this excuse to break up, I’m gonna end up laughing in his face.”
- “I started learning German again and getting into some more of my hobbies after she left because of all the new free time I now had.”
- “Yep!! Mine worked himself into another woman already! Lol.”
You Heard That Right: We Are Never Ever Getting Back Together!
Swift said it right: We are never ever getting back together! And I really, really, really mean it! It will hurt. It will be really painful. And it might really break you. It could be the worst heartbreak of all time. But it will definitely pass – it might take you a few days, a few weeks, and in some cases, even a few months might not be enough.
But trust me, this will pass. LITERALLY! Now you have to tell us what you think! And while doing so, feel free to share your heartbreak experiences in the comments below.
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