Figuring out how to flirt with a guy is most definitely not as simple as it initially sounds. Showing a man that you are into them or getting him to notice you? Not a piece of cake, always. But, of course, some women are born with ‘the gift of the gab’, while other women are just naturally flirty, and then there are those lucky few women who just get into this whole flirting thing instinctively.
Sadly, the introverts amongst us don’t really enjoy the same sort of advantages. So besides starting with the usual “, I like you, would you like to go out?” (…I am guessing directness works well at times?) how do you engage in some good ol’ subtle flirting and show the guy that you can’t stop staring?
So, to answer your question, I have done some intensive research involving dating experts, psychologists, and body language experts – and now I am ready to share the *best* flirting tips and advice (thank me later). So, keep reading to find out how to flirt with a guy without really flirting at all!
The Art Of Flirting: What Turns Guys On?
Flirting does not come easily to most of us. Even the ones who are pretty confident freeze up and utter a very wimpy “hey” especially when they watch their crush appearing close to them.
“You don’t need a driver’s license to drive me crazy”
When you have thoughts of a woman flirting, what is the first probable thing which comes to your mind? Touching the guy unnecessarily? Laughing at his jokes? A shrilly high-pitched voice? A few sexual innuendos? Lots of witty banter? Public display of affection? Intense eye contact which makes everyone around want to throw up?
Okay, you can definitely call THAT flirting. But it is one of the ways of flirting that makes people around you cringe with an urge to scream ‘GET A ROOM NOW!’ to the couple.
So instead of making it THAT obvious with cringy pick-up lines or worse, flirty quotes, why not resort to flirting techniques that actually work without embarrassing you – because the most common display of flirting is too over-the-top for comfort. And then it does not relay flirting when you are obvious about it – rather, it’s dry humping, only verbal.
“Let’s play Titanic. You be the ocean, and I’ll go down on you.”
Honestly, the best type of flirting is characterized by a more subtle, and discreet approach, one which actually makes a man fall for you (hard) without knowing why they are even falling for you in the first place. Knowing how to subtly flirt with a guy is like mastering a form of art, and that is exactly why we are here!
Scroll down and find out how to flirt with a man and that too subtly!
Turning Him On With Just A Few Words: How To Flirt With A Guy?
Men might think twice even before attempting to flirt, but if you actually follow the steps mentioned below, you’ll find appealing men warming up to you and engaging in some subtle flirting with you, even in the presence of their girlfriends!
I am hoping you do know this secret, right? Guys are often drawn or attracted to women they can actually flirt with – work that magic (and that ass too!)
“I’m a tattoo artist. Wanna try a red mark on your neck?”
Remember, you are not going to make any move initially if you are familiar with tips on how to flirt with a guy, and that too subtly. Just follow the steps as simple mentioned below, and watch yourself making any man you want to flirt with you – you don’t even have to make the first move ever.
Trust me, there is nothing sexier than confidence. Your crush and everyone else will definitely notice if you are strutting down the hallway like you simply own it – confidence sends out a whole ‘flirt with me’ signal. Your crush, in fact, would want to find out more about that girl who was brimming with charms and confidence.
Draw attention To Your Body (Especially Lips):
This one sounds totally ridiculous but it works every single time and is much better than juicy dates messages, or the like. Get that pout out, and instead keep a lip gloss or chapstick handy – you might just spot your crush and need to swipe on that extra layer! Your crush will keep thinking about those red lips throughout the day.
“Kissing burns 6.4 calories a minute. Wanna workout?”
Smile And Say ‘Hi!’:
I know how seeing a crush approaching while you are walking down the hallway can prove to be a scary feeling. In fact, your reaction probably will be to stare at your smartphone pretending hoe you are really busy but ignore these instincts. Just look up with a smile – finish it with a small wave, a ‘hi,’ and then keep walking. Boom—you will find yourself on the radar of your crush.
Ignore Your Crush But Not Always:
It sounds almost counterintuitive, doesn’t it? But just imagine coming across your crush when he is with his friends somewhere in public. Say ‘hi’ to the friends first and immediately strike up a conversation. Your crush will automatically feel a little left out until you take a turn and include them (it might just make their day so much better).
“You have lips. I have lips. Interesting.”
Sometimes, Be Obvious:
Maybe you are just playing frisbee inside the park and “accidentally” you end up throwing it towards the cutie nearby. An apology that’s exaggerated might let them know that you are flirting, and that too on purpose leading to a good conversation of sorts.
A Special Addition: How To Flirt With A Guy Over Text?
I decided to include some texts to make him think about you – if you were wondering what to text a guy, or how to tell someone you like them over text, scroll down and find out the tips which might help you score some major brownie points (or in some cases, some brownies too)!
- Hey Stranger. Could you stop being such a stranger to me?
- What would you tell me, if I ask you to come over, right now?
- I am just a girl texting a man and asking him out for a coffee. Hey, do you want to get some coffee tomorrow?
- Come over? Now? There’s no one home today…well, except me.
- Hey, could you stop thinking about me? I keep dreaming about you every night.
- I suck at conversation starters. Will you help me?
- Come over? I have all your favorites at my disposal – Beer, Pizza, and of course, ME!
- Miss me yet?
- It was such a stressful week. Let’s blow some steam together.
- You. Me. Takeout. Tonight.
Bonus Section: Understanding How Men Flirt!
Let’s get down to basics here, how do men flirt? While flirty good morning messages for him are a great idea to win a man’s heart, is that the solution to how to flirt with women? Not really! The best way to flirt with a woman is by understanding how women flirt – similarly before flirting with men, understand how men flirt!
Before seducing a man with words, you need to understand what’s going on inside his head, right? Men, irrespective of their age, love the concept or rather the idea of a charming woman. They might be nervous wrecks or smooth talkers while communicating with any woman, but that doesn’t mean they don’t like the idea of a charming woman.
“Yes I have a dirty mind and right now you’re running through it…naked”
If you want to find out how to flirt with a guy at work or school, you must understand that men are mostly in the mood to flirt around! But then, men are not going to engage in outrageous flirting with every single girl they come across. After all, one wrong move might earn him the tag of a pervert or worse a sleazy simp throwing himself at women. So sometimes, you just need to let the guy know – it’s okay if he admires you *a.k.a. flirts with you*, and flirts he definitely will!
Frequently Asked Questions:
One of the best ways to flirt with a guy without flirting is to just casually touch him. This obviously doesn’t mean you have to be all over the guy and shower him with kisses. Instead, you can just brush his shoulder or arms very casually – you can make it seem like an accident.
The key to flirting without making it very obvious lies deep within your body language as well as your conversational skills – make eye contact that lasts and simile a little more than usual to show that you are kinda and interested. You can also lean towards the guy while having a conversation.
You can flirt with a guy casually, armed with the tips mentioned below.
• Compliment him
• Tease him
• Draw attention towards your body, especially your lips.
• Laugh at all his jokes.
• Call him by his name.
Check out the most popular signs below to understand whether a boy likes you or not.
• He touches you.
• He remembers a lot of small details regarding you.
• He makes eye contact with you.
• He puts in the effort to make conversations with you.
• He gets a little jealous when you give attention to other men.
There are three ways to go about this such as,
• Be confident,
• Be attentive, and
• Give genuine compliments.
Flirt Like There’s No Tomorrow…But Don’t Make It Obvious!
Just like some hot flirty quotes can’t make your flirting techniques any better, similarly, a monotonous ‘how’s your day going won’t make things better for you – so you must not waste time, and flirt like there’s no tomorrow…but you know the golden rule – you can’t make it obvious otherwise what’s the point?
“I can’t hear you with all of those clothes on”
Knowing how to flirt with a guy is great and comes in handy from time to time – you never know what life will throw at you! Meanwhile, don’t forget to tell us what you think, and also share your experiences on the same in the comments section below.
Barsha Bhattacharya is a senior content writing executive. As a marketing enthusiast and professional for the past 4 years, writing is new to Barsha. And she is loving every bit of it. Her niches are marketing, lifestyle, wellness, travel and entertainment. Apart from writing, Barsha loves to travel, binge-watch, research conspiracy theories, Instagram and overthink.