In today’s ‘how are women treated as objects,’ we will talk about how to handle a wife because your wife totally needs to be handled. A good ol’ control session is exactly what women in 2022 need! Yes, women can be difficult, and sometimes things can become a little trickier than you foresaw.
“Life is tough, darling. But so are you…”
But I had a problem with the word ‘handle,’ when I sat down to type this article out a little while ago. But do you know what changed? A married woman’s advice when I asked her about the same question I was asked. She smiled and said, ‘Let her be,’ leaving me smiling and wondering how well women age over time, a calm sense of wisdom radiating from their personalities.
How To Handle A Wife? “Let Me Be”, She Said
Search engines can be a strange place, even stranger than Wonderland because people search for just about anything. And I was shocked to find the number of people who have searched for ‘how to control wife’ on Google. Are people actually so worried about their wives that how to handle a wife is something people want to read about?
So I decided to answer this million-dollar question! For me, the world is divided into two types of women – the ones you can’t tame and the ones who make ‘good’ wives. Is being submissive a personality trend now? I thought I was living in a world that believed in gender equality; then why can’t we restrict submissive to the bedroom and refine the meaning of a good wife.
The Big Fat Wedding Story!
Women today get married because they want to and because society expects them to. The day when ‘all’ women will be allowed to enjoy this freedom will be perhaps a day of big wins for the entire female gender. But for now, it’s a privilege that only a section of society enjoys. They say the bigger the wedding, the more expensive the divorce – and that’s sort of true.
“Our breakup was due to religious differences. He thought he was God. I didn’t.”
So is handling your wife such a difficult experience that you are ready to pay for divorce already? Well, don’t lose hope. No matter how cynical I might sound, I promise you a solution. You just need to keep reading. Oh, and keep scrolling down too!
No Space, No Peace.
There are two kinds of husbands out there. The ‘wife is always right’ husbands and ‘who’s the man of the house’ husbands. The problem with both categories is that they do not understand how to give space. For all husbands who believe that their wives are always right, understand that she might be mad at you, but that doesn’t mean she is no longer in love with you.
“If you love a person, give them infinite space.”
Similarly, you are not just the man of the house. You are also ‘the man’ for your wife, then why do you need to annoy or even hurt her? The fact that a 21st-century woman allows you to mansplain her all the time is nothing but a sign of true love. So forget about finding out how to handle a wife and just give it some time…and space!
Trust Issues Are Not Daddy Issues XD
I believe there are wives who are capable of making their husbands’ lives hell but seek within yourself first. Before making such irreparable claims about your one and only, think through your relationship issues. Most often, trust stands at the root of all such issues – has your wife been cheated on in the past? Has your wife been lied to in the past?
“It’s not you, it’s me finally realizing you’re terrible for me.”
Understand why your wife behaves the way she does – instead of finding out how to handle your wife, find out why she is insecure about your relationship. Have you given her any reason to distrust you? And for the last time, trust issues are not your wives’ daddy issues. If you guys can’t trust each other, figure out how to solve those issues. Go for relationship therapy if needed.
Women Nag, Men Tolerate: NO, That’s A Stereotype
You might have a nagging wife, or you might ‘assume’ that all women are capable of becoming nagging wives. The two situations are completely different. Some women can be very nagging (like me), and some are not (unlike me) – the world is a place for people who push and people who get pushed. And that applies to all, without gender becoming a point of identification.
So if your wife is a nagging woman, you need some help. Here’s what you can do!
- Sit down and have a calm conversation.
- Give each other space.
- Reconcile when both of you are finally in a good place.
- Read the first point again.
“All I know is one of us is right, and the other one is you.”
But what if your case is something completely different based on a stereotypical assumption? In that case, first, ask yourself, ‘how is my wife?’ You will know whether she is actually nagging or you just assumed. If it’s an assumption, the best thing you can do is actually have an honest conversation with your wife, clearing out any existing issues in your relationship.
Frequently Asked Questions
There is technically no reason behind finding out how to handle a wife. In fact, we have all been asking and reassuring each other – about how to handle a wife we are also searching for. Handling your wife is an impossible task, best left alone.
The signs of a toxic marriage are as follows,
• Lack of respect,
• Lack of loyalty,
• Lack of effort,
• Lack of intimacy, and
• Lack of peace.
Instead of typing, ‘how to manage wife,’ follow the steps mentioned below,
• Have a calm and honest conversation,
• Give each other space,
•Retrace your steps to go to the root of the problem.
Love Is Hard, And Marriage Is Harder: Freedom To Consider
So are you still worried about how to handle a wife? If you are, I suggest consulting with some expert because sometimes relationships are more complex than you can understand on the surface. In that case, relationship therapy is something you guys can definitely consider. Moreover, instead of controlling your wife, find out how to keep your wife happy for a change.
Most of the time, silly issues are the product of our own creative overthinking – talk it out, and you guys will be just fine. Don’t forget to let me know your thoughts on the same in the comments section below!
Barsha Bhattacharya is a senior content writing executive. As a marketing enthusiast and professional for the past 4 years, writing is new to Barsha. And she is loving every bit of it. Her niches are marketing, lifestyle, wellness, travel and entertainment. Apart from writing, Barsha loves to travel, binge-watch, research conspiracy theories, Instagram and overthink.