The feeling of having butterflies in your stomach is something that anyone loves to have, but what if it’s from having a crush on someone? The feeling of being euphoric, energized, and giddy, whenever you are near them or spending time with them.
But what if the person you are in love with is in love with someone else? What then? Can your crush develop into something more than just a simple crush? Will it remain the impossible love story that you once had?
Teardrops On My Guitar: Forgetting An Impossible Love
At times like these the song that chokes me up is Taylor Swift Teardrops on my guitar. Which is about having a crush on someone. But that person doesn’t even know about you or ignores you, or is in love with someone else.
“Drew looks at me, I fake a smile so he won’t see
That I want and I’m needing everything that we should be
I’ll bet she’s beautiful, that girl he talks about
And she’s got everything that I have to live without
Drew talks to me, I laugh ’cause it’s just so funny
But I can’t even see anyone when he’s with me
He says he’s so in love, he’s finally got it right
I wonder if he knows he’s all I think about at night
He’s the reason for the teardrops on my guitar
The only thing that keeps me wishing on a wishing star
He’s the song in the car I keep singing, don’t know why I do.”
Verse 2:“Drew walks by me, can he tell that I can’t breathe?
And there he goes, so perfectly
The kind of flawless I wish I could be
She’d better hold him tight, give him all her love
Look in those beautiful eyes and know she’s lucky ’cause
He’s the reason for the teardrops on my guitar
The only thing that keeps me wishing on a wishing star
He’s the song in the car I keep singing, don’t know why I do.”
Verse 3:“So I drive home alone, as I turn out the light
I’ll put his picture down and maybe get some sleep tonight.
‘Cause he’s the reason for the teardrops on my guitar
The only one who’s got enough of me to break my heart
He’s the song in the car I keep singing, don’t know why I do
He’s the time taken up, but there’s never enough
And he’s all that I need to fall into.
Drew looks at me, I fake a smile so he won’t see.”
It is always possible that you are friends with your crush, then they might not even know that you are in love with them. That is when unknowingly they might hurt your feelings. But it hurts even more when that person knowingly ignores your feelings and simply plays dumb toward them.
But what if you have a crush on someone who is totally off limits like a married person like a neighbor or someone you know, or it can also be your professor? Then one-sided relationships like that are hard to get over and it can be a long process for you.
Even though the journey to forgetting is not easy, especially when the feeling is quite strong, it is not impossible. You can turn over a new page and start a new chapter, but it is a step-by-step process toward your destination.
So keep on reading to know more about all the steps you have to go through towards forgetting.
1. Accept Your Feelings
The first and foremost thing that you should understand is to accept what you are actually feeling. Are you really crushing on that person or is it something else?
And if you are sure that what you are feeling is definitely a crush or something even more than that. The first step to getting over your feelings is to accept that you have feelings.
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2. Grieve The Loss Of What You Hoped For
Now that you have accepted that you have feelings for this person and that you need to let go of these feelings, it’s time to grieve the relationship, even if there were none.
You might think it is pointless to grieve something that was never there, but that’s not true. To move on from something, it is important to properly mourn or grieve that feeling away from your life.
3. Give It Time
Now that you are properly grieving the feelings that you had for that person, then now you should give yourself the much-needed time that you deserve.
Well, you know what they say, “Time will heal,” in certain cases, it is actually true, and not something people just say to console you. And in this time it is true, give yourself all the time you need.
4. Avoid Letting Your Feelings Consume You
The time that you are giving yourself to heal and grieve, during that it is quite possible that all those romantic feelings are going to suck you back right in.
And then you will be back to square one, but you can let that happen, although it can be hard to stay strong all the time, you have gotta try.
There can be times when you are caught thinking about that person again, in a vulnerable moment, it is okay, it can happen, but don’t make a habit out of it.
5. Talk About It
If you think that you are more than enough capable of handling such emotional complications alone, then fine.
But if you think you need help from your friends or any family members, then you should never hesitate to ask. There is no shame in asking for help and opening up to others about your feelings.
Talking it out with your friends is a way of getting another point of view that might prove to be helpful for your sake. And what are friends for if not to dump your emotional sewage on?
6. Reframe Your Feelings
Now that you have got time to think about your feelings, that way you are able really focus on understanding what you feel.
That way you can rationalize your feelings properly and actually understand what those feelings actually meant and how you feel about them. Now that it is something impossible for you to get.
7. Distract Yourself
If you think staying home and struggling with your feelings is only making your more depressed and sad.
Then the best thing for you is to distract yourself by doing something else, like go out with your friends. That way your mind won’t be preoccupied with the thoughts of your crush and you won’t feel emotional as much at least for a brief period.
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8. Try Dating Again
A great way to get over your crush is by dating someone new, that way you won’t have to just sit around and wallow, and meet someone new. Getting back to the dating pool is really going to be great for your social life and dating life.
9. Do Things You Enjoy
Even if you are not ready to start getting again, you can do something that will make you happy. Like taking up a hobby like dancing, painting, gardening, crafts, and pottery.
That way you can add an extra skill to your life skills, and you can also get new things made in that process.
10. Get Professional Help
Now as a final course of action, if you feel like nothing is helping you and nothing is helping you anymore, then you should get professional help.
By talking to a professional therapist, they can help you rationalize and really understand your feelings in a more profound way.
Wrapping Up!
Now that you can realize properly that dragging your feelings after an impossible love story is not going to bring you anything other than pain and suffering. The song Teardrops on my guitar by Taylor Swift perfectly explains the situation, of an impossible one-sided love.
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